Anita Losoya

musings of a humanist

Welcome, Fellow Humans...

My brain never stops. "Random thought mode" keeps me up at night, and keeps me distracted pretty much all day, every day. Which brings me to the creation of this website. I felt the need for an outlet for that which ails me, inspires me, and piques my curiosity. A creative escape, if you will, from my textbooks, work stuff, and everyday tasks.

But, what's in it for YOU?

I hope you find my musings relatable, because you should never feel entirely alone. I hope you learn something new, because knowledge, like air, is vital to life. I hope it helps you perform a <ctrl><alt><del> on the ill-conceived assumptions and perspectives that interfere with your relationships and hold you back from being the best human you can be.

Love thy neighbor, and all that jazz. xoxo

Negative self-talk getting you down? STOP IT! (July 1, 2018)

How many times a day do you find yourself mumbling any of these words or phrases to yourself: Boring. I can't do it. Useless. Loser. Not ever good enough.

The good (or bad) news is...  You. Are. Not. Alone.

Overcoming those bad inner voices takes work, but it is never too late to turn the cycle of negativity around.

While I could write a lengthy essay on this topic I will refrain. In a nutshell, positive self-talk can help combat negative thoughts that creep in when negative events or mistakes occur.

Let me leave you with a few tips that have helped me to overcome this issue:

  1. Identify your mindset (i.e., your attitudes, thoughts, and beliefs about something): Fixed or Growth. A fixed mindset is the belief that you are born with a certain amount of intelligence or potential, and that's it. A growth mindset is the belief that your intelligence or potential can increase if you work at it.
  2. If you change your words, over time you can change your mindset. Instead of: "I made a mistake." Try this instead: "Mistakes help me to learn better."
  3. Try the "SOS" technique to stop negative self-talk: Stop - Observe - Shift. Mentally tell yourself to STOP, which gives you the opportunity to address the thought and interrupt the cycle. OBSERVE what you are saying to yourself and how it is making you feel. SHIFT your cognitive, emotional, or behavioral response by using positive coping skills and techniques.
  4. And, remember this: It is a scientific fact that working through mental challenges strengthens the brain and, over time, improves our abilities.

Lastly, if your negative thoughts are relentless and are interfering with your daily functioning, consider seeing a psychiatric or psychological professional to rule out (or in) mental illness. Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar Disorder, PTSD, et al. are treatable disorders that can develop into more serious problems over time if you persistently ignore the symptoms.

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